demonlurking: (Default)
2025-05-10 01:06 pm

- thoughts on Nimona [belated] -



To start with… watch it if you can. It is good representation of and by LGBTQIA+ and could really use the engagement.

This is a film that has been in the works for years.
It is based on a webcomic by Nate “ND” Stevenson. They began it as a project in junior year of college in 2012. It was published as a graphic novel in 2015.

The Nimona comic and Stevenson’s other comic work led to them being the creator, showrunner and executive producer of the She-Ra and the Princesses of Power series (credited as Noelle Stevenson).
(She-Ra is also with a watch, but it’s 65 eps)

It was originally in production by BlueSky Studios (part of Fox). When Disney bought Fox in 2019, BlueSky was asked to “tone down” the LGBTQIA+ themes. When BlueSky refused, Disney cancelled the project and disbanded BlueSky Studios.

Annapurna productions picked it up and DNEG was tapped to do the animation. All of the previous animation work had to be redone as DNEG’s software was incompatible with BlueSky’s formats. Although much of the previously recorded voice performances were able to be used.

If the earlier info was unclear, ND Stevenson is nonbinary/trans. Nimona was an important part of his coming to understand that. It was their first real project.

There is a repeated line from the movie that I feel is very important these days, and strongly resonates with me:
“I don't know what's scarier. The fact that everyone in this kingdom wants to run a sword through my heart... or that sometimes, I just wanna let 'em.”

It has been resonating with me lately.

Along with that, there is this one:
“They grow up believing that they can be a hero if they drive a sword into the heart of anything different. And I’m the monster?”

This is someone else’s review of the film Nimona that really resonates with me.

It is important: but there are caveats.

It contains massive spoilers for Netflix’s Nimona. As is said in this video, watch Nimona, then watch this.

Nimona is worth watching.

- Nimona is the queer movie we NEED -

Once again, if you have access to Netflix, watch Nimona.
If you don’t have Netflix, get access to Netflix. Ask friend who does, organize a watch party, if you know me in person, hit me up I’ll watch it again, GLADLY!
Thanks for coming to my TED talk.


demonlurking: (Default)
2025-05-09 01:23 pm

- a topical quote these days-



“They grow up believing that they can be a hero if they drive a sword into the heart of anything different. And I’m the monster?

I don't know what's scarier. The fact that everyone in this kingdom wants to run a sword through my heart... or that sometimes, I just wanna let 'em.”
-Nimona

(If you still haven’t seen it, do so at your earliest opportunity.)


demonlurking: (Default)
2025-05-06 02:29 am

- deep thoughts -



I hear conservative pundits claim that being trans is some “new fad” and that one never used to hear about trans people.

And I think of Elegabalus, and Hatshepsut, and the Gala priests of Inanna.

And I wonder how far back they want to take civilization just to try to prove their point.


demonlurking: (aries)
2025-01-28 08:04 pm

- nope -



To be VERY clear, I am not ok right now.


demonlurking: (Transbian)
2025-01-26 07:18 am

- ranty, rant rant -



I am a trans woman.

At the moment the government of the United States of America wants to "eradicate" me. (Their word, not mine.)

What follows is a personal rant. If you don't want to read it, don't. This applies to those who might be having their own difficulties right now and for whom this is just another whiny trans-girl ranting.

Warning whiny rant enclosed
Read more... )

You may now ignore me like everyone else and go about your day.


demonlurking: (Default)
2025-01-19 03:38 am

-more waste in the wasteland-



So, tonight TikTok went dark in the US. Also for various reasons, people are starting a Meta boycott tonight. So available places for community are becoming more sparse.

Not sure how I feel about that.

I’m here for whatever that’s worth, my last few posts have had absolutely zero interaction.
And I’m on BlueSky.

That’s about it right now. I don’t know if that’s enough. Online community is important, but there are so few safe spaces for someone like me at this point.


demonlurking: (Default)
2025-01-14 11:02 pm

-outrage-



That they had this and chose to do nothing is a gross violation of the public trust.

It is also proof positive that there are two separate systems of justice in this country. One that refuses whole the rich and powerful accountable for their actions, and one that persecutes and punishes the poor and marginalized.

https://www.documentcloud.org/documents/25486132-report-of-special-counsel-smith-volume-1-january-2025/


demonlurking: (eye)
2025-01-08 11:27 pm

-the world is on fire-



I’m watching my childhood neighborhood burn from nearly 3000 miles away. This is what happens when we pull funding from firefighters so that we can give more riot gear to cops.


demonlurking: (eye)
2025-01-07 10:04 pm

-social media wasteland-



And now, as we grow closer to the regime change, more and more people are beginning to obey in advance. Today Meta basically announced that they wanted Facebook to follow the shambling remains of the thing that was once Twitter into irrelevancy. Maybe I’ll start posting more here. I try in fits and spurts to do so regularly. My ADHD tends to make those attempts short lived no matter where I make them. What I need to remember is that a short absence does not mean that I am abandoning something and not to dwell over th missed posts, but to simply restart when I have the spoons once more.

Since the fall of LJ, I have mostly been active on FB. As I began looking for new online communities during the pandemic, I found Twitter and Reddit. These places allowed me to anonymously join trans communities to work out how to go about coming out and transitioning. As those options became more problematic, I tried the new alternatives. I have a Mastodon account, a Discord account, a BlueSky account, because I have a Facebook account I also have Instagram and Threads accounts. Of those, BlueSky is the one where the communities I want to be part of have mostly congregated.

That is not to say it’s perfect, BlueSky has been having its share of issues. But with Facebook announcing its most recent platform updates, I will probably be frequenting it less. Places like Discord might be nice and welcoming, but I haven’t been able to actually get into many of those communities and the few I have tend to move faster than I really follow. I don’t live in social media the way younger folks do, but I exist here more than most people my age.

I am most active on BlueSky, there is a big community there, but I think I will still post here when I have something long to say.


demonlurking: (Femme)
2025-01-06 01:18 am

-year two (or another year older and deeper in debt)-



So, here we are again. It is now two years since I started HRT. I’m not really one for selfies, but I do sort of miss having a good record of my transition. Again, I’m avoiding makeup and shapewear for these. I do need to work on my makeup techniques, I’m still really bad at it. The laser has been doing its job, albeit slowly. But everything about this process is maddeningly slow at this stage.
Read more... )
So now we enter 2025 with interesting times on the horizon. I’m not really looking forward to the foreseeable future, but I intend to continue being me through it all.


demonlurking: (darktongue)
2024-02-03 02:35 am

- justice for one … how many more remain -



So, I don’t know if this can really be considered “good” news, but it is at least respectably appropriate news.

Today the murderers of Brianna Ghey were found guilty of her hate motivated killing and sentenced to life in prison with at least 20 years before consideration for parole. It took nearly a year and it was looking like the courts were not actually going to call it a hate crime. But they did and at least one trans woman gets justice.

For anyone not familiar with the case, Brianna was a 16-year old trans girl who was actively involved in helping other trans kids access care and spreading support through TikTok. Last February she was brutally stabbed by two other kids from her school after they failed to poison her. In the planning they expressed excitement about finding out if “it” would scream like a boy or a girl when they killed her.

I am saddened by her passing and at the so many other trans people who have been treated similarly and have had their cases ignored or buried, but at least one person has received justice.

Wikipedia entry for Brianna Ghey

demonlurking: (darktongue)
2024-01-11 12:08 am

(no subject)



when will the world will finally wake up and recognize “The Heritage Foundation” and “Moms for Liberty” and the “Alliance Defending Freedom” as the hate groups that they are?


demonlurking: (Default)
2024-01-10 12:59 am

-and so it begins-



here we are, just barely a week into the new year and we’re already seeing the same old same old.

thursday, january 4th was the first school shooting of the year. still no more than thoughts and prayers from the conservative right and minimal pushback from the left. this has become “normal”. I remember when Columbine was earth shattering and now it’s “normal”

maybe i should link to the onion article “‘No Way To Prevent This,’ Says Only Nation Where This Regularly Happens”. they’ve only run it 36 times in the last decade, nearly two thirds of those have been in the past 3 years. (22 time since january 1st, 2020.)

in other news Ohio is joining Florida on anti transgender legislation and enacted what amounts to a ban on all gender affirming care via an executive order from the governor who just vetoed a similar bill that had gone through the state legislature. way to send some mixed messages there.

meanwhile Florida has decided to try to force state citizens to sign an affidavit verifying their birth gender in order to get or renew their drivers licenses. effectively creating a registry of gender diverse residents.

we’re already approaching 180 proposed laws this year many seeking to eliminate the legal existence of transgender individuals.

i’m just tired.

demonlurking: (eye)
2024-01-02 06:08 am

-one year, or year one-



Yeah, I know, it’s a couple of days early, but I’m gonna be working til Saturday and I’m not gonna be able to post these before then. I’m kinda drunk now and so, here are some one year on HRT selfies (no makeup, no shapewear, no bra, deal with it).
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i know, they aren’t great, but that’s what you’re gonna get right now. Sorry. DM me if you need more.

demonlurking: (Default)
2024-01-02 04:53 am

-trust-



this references netflix's Nimona, if you haven't seen it, do so.

once upon a time, i trusted someone.
i though they were my Balister.
they turned out to be my Gloreth.

now ... i'm trying to figure out where to go from here.
i don't want to wait a thousand years for someone to accept me.
do i continue as i have been? do i "run-away" to live with family with unknown prospects for the future? they've offered. i could.
but i have kids who i would miss and who might not understand.
life right now is stable (i have housing, i have employment, both kinda suck but could be worse). do i risk that for something that could be better, or could be worse?

yes, it's New Year's Day and i am drinking and watching Nimona for, like, the thousandth time. (i really wish Netflix would release it on physical media.) no one reads these anyway, so why do i care.

here i am on New Year's Day feeling vulnerable and betrayed , what's new. tomorrow (tonight, whatever), i go to work as usual at the job i hate to afford the apartment that (while nice) is a symbol of the relationship i thought i had that i have lost.

once again, here i go, screaming into the void, whatever

demonlurking: (jadeanubis)
2023-12-11 08:29 pm

-things lost-



I have lost something…

Once, I was an avid reader. I used to power through books in days.

Once, I went for walks to take pictures. I enjoyed the process of finding the angle, the framing, the texture.

Once, I cooked. I made food for the enjoyment of myself and others. I enjoyed the process of making something flavorful.

Once, I made art. I drew, I made sculptures. They weren’t all good, but I tried my best to bring the shapes and imagery in my head to a physical form.

Once, I wrote stories. Some of them were what one might call fanfic, some of them were simply backgrounds for RPG characters.

Now … I still have those desires, those thoughts, those feelings. But, now, I find myself unable to bring them to fruition. I don’t have the time, the energy, the patience, the motivation, the dedication, whatever, to work on them.

Now … all of my time, my energy, my patience, my motivation, whatever, is dedicated to simply making it to the next day … ensuring that I have a next day to make it to.

I no longer do these things.

I don’t read, I barely read social media, let alone books I once enjoyed. I don’t have time or energy for walks. I don’t really exist during daylight hours to do photography. I don’t find cooking anything more than a chore, necessary to feed myself. Though I am nearly constantly hungry and can never find something satisfying to eat. I don’t make art, though the concepts exist in my head I have lost the abilities to render them in the world. I don’t write, I barely create backgrounds for the RPG characters I do wind up making backgrounds for.

As I make changes in who I am, I realize that that I have been so focused on living day to day, that I’ve lost all passion and purpose.

I know I need to make changes to bring back that passion. But I don’t know how to do so, without that passion, that drive. I am scared to ask for help… I don’t know how. I never learned. I spent so long hiding, so long pretending, so long being the one in control. So long projecting a facade.

I guess I need help figuring out how to ask for help working out what help I need.

demonlurking: (Default)
2023-11-20 03:28 am

- TDOR -



No cuts today, this is too important.

Today will be the 24th annual Transgender Day of Remembrance.

In the last year, our world has lost 434 transgender individuals that we know of. Of those, 336 lives were cut short by others, and 70 by their own hand.

Here in the "United" States, we lost 109 members of the community, 53 to acts of violence and 33 by their own hands.

(Yes, those numbers don't add up. There are some cases where people died of natural causes or situations what were not deemed suspicious enough to be considered either murder or suicide.)

Once again, these are the numbers that we know of, there are countless others that may have been missed simply because they never managed to leave their closet.

The vast majority of these persons were taken from the BIPOC community.
While I acknowledge the privilege that I was born into by being white, I have become a member of a vilified class of "other". In the past year, of the 109 transgender individuals who were lost, 69 were other trans-women.

Some of this is driven by the fact that the gay/trans "panic defense" is only banned in 19 of our 50 "United" States. And in case you were wondering, Pennsylvania is not one of them (although it is one of the 12 other states that considered banning it). Although Pennsylvania is one of the 26 states that has banned conversion therapy (one of the biggest drivers of LGBT suicide). (However, that ban only extends to state and federal funding for it, not the actual practice.)

I ask that we take a moment to remember those we have lost in the last year, and beyond.

...

Then, I ask us to consider what we can do to reduce these numbers in the future.

To start with, VOTE. Vote in local elections as well as national. Candidates (usually) only get to the national level when they have served at a lower position.

Vote blue, vote Democrat. Don't let split loyalties allow the Republicans to gain a foothold.
The right-wing elements of out governmental system would like to make the existence of LGBT persons illegal (no, this is not hyperbole, if you have questions, look up "Project 2025").

If you care about anyone who is or may be a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, I urge you to vote, and vote Democrat. Whoever the candidate is. If third party candidates are allowed to split the non-Republican vote, this makes it easier for Project 2025 to succeed.

I'll get off of my soapbox now. I'm sorry for getting political. Sometimes our current climate infuriates me.

If you've made it this far, thank you.

--

Figures taken from the annual report on transremembrance.org and wikipedia.


demonlurking: (window)
2023-10-16 08:53 pm

- rant about life -



Ranty life post to follow, feel free to skip if you just don't care.

ranty rant rant )

demonlurking: (window)
2022-06-19 11:54 pm

- Juneteenth remembrance of LiveJournal -



so, i don’t know where else to post this, but my thoughts tonight delve, once again, into nostalgia for LJ.

and i realize that today is an appropriate day to mourn the passing of the LJ community.

i don’t know if anyone else has put it together as I have in my head (probably, but I haven’t seen any posts about it)

see, the LJ community dies in little steps, but the first big step was the sale to SUP. when LJ was sold to the Russians there was worry that free speech would become a liability. this caused people to seek alternatives. Some left for Facebook, some MySpace (which was still a thing back then, though it too was beginning to die), some came here to DreamWidth. the problem was that we scattered. not enough people went to any one alternative and the overall community just stopped.

now, we look back and those fears were founded. in 2017, SUP rewrote the LJ TOS and now they conform to Russian law and free speech and particularly LGBTQ+ voices are no longer allowed. their TOS are even written in Russian now.

and I look back on that dead community and realize that it was killed by Russian homophobes. and that makes it appropriate to mourn today.


demonlurking: (eye)
2010-01-24 02:54 pm

- random commentary on ebook readers and ebooks -



It's like candles vs lightbulbs... light bulbs are great at performing a function, but you don't turn on a lamp when you want to relax, and you don't gift someone a light bulb. They will never truly kill off candles.


from here